i want to say sorry, personally first, to all the guys that i have bitten at, spoke down to and walked on in my life. i have started to see that men are such a gift and a strength to us, and that needs to be uncovered, and i totally beleive that women need to take their place in the world alongside guys, as equals and supporters, as sisters and friends, wives and daughters.
too many times have i not seen the gift that God has given me, the brothers and fathers in my life, and i have trodden on their strength and character by not being who i am supposed to be in their lives.
ive been learning about the warrior, the fighter, the defender and the adventurer that a man is. and that is so exciting, mystifying and beautiful. its another part of the love story God has written for us.
(for those of you who wonder where i get this stuff...read Wild at Heart by John Elderidge)
and i want to say sorry to all men, for those of us who have stamped on you, restricted you, put you down in public and in private, who have hidden ourselves from you, who have denied to you everything you need, and the things you wanted from us, who have hurt you, betrayed you, rejected you, laughed at you, walked away from you, ignored your giftings, ignored your authority, denied you the authority you are given by God, blamed you for somone elses' mistakes, imparted on to you our hurts and our problems, who have blamed you when you find you are unable (not incapable) to 'fix' us, and all the other things we are at fault for.
thats about as much as i can do.
i do want to challenge the women who read this. we need to stop thinking about ourselves all the time and start embracing the things in the men around us, that bother us. those irritating things arent there for your pain and theyre not meant to bug us, but to tell us that there is a beauty, strength and array of gifts inside a man that are meant to be fired up by us, theyre meant to be encouraged, cheered on, released.
that urge for him to defend you, the desire to want more for your life, the want to live adventurously. theyre all gifts from God, not only for him, but you too.
i hope to some of you this makes sense.
to those of you whom it doesnt-think about it.
